Tuesday, March 19, 2013

March 19, 2013


Sometimes I smell smoke.

It's not the comforting smell of a wood fire, safely crackling in a fireplace, behind screens or glass, or within a ring of rocks, it's not the sticky smell of a grease fire, nor even, thank the heavens, the acrid, plastic smell of an oil refinery burning. I've smelled them all, and others, the smell of dying dreams as a home burns, the bacony smell of the crematorium, a scent that still makes offering some foods enough to send me running for a place to throw up.

It's the smell of cigarettes, papery, chemical tobacco, burning the back of my nose when it comes, and I cannot exhale enough to clear it, nor will incense or open air clear it. It comes, it lingers, reminding me.

He smoked, from the time he entered the army to the days he lost himself in the sickness that killed him, he smoked, cigarettes mostly, whatever brand he could afford, a pipe if he was given tobacco for it, a cigar from time to time, if someone else had a child and gifted co-workers or friends. The cigars always smelled like autumn, but not the clean scents of dying leaves, and coming winter, they smelled like damp and mold and sour.

Not pleasant, but the smell of cigarettes is comforting, for all it makes my lungs heavy with the reminder of the danger of second hand smoke. I don't smoke, never did, but I will likely find his smoking fatal, as he did. It is still a link, a reminder that even gone, he's checking in on me, as he did when I was a child, making sure I'm home, sure I'm safe, sure I can be found if need be.

He did that, she did that, looking after their last child, the child that surprised them both, ten years after my closest sibling, as I looked after them in their later years, at least, trying to. They raised me to independence, and didn't understand that independence meant I'd chafe at being expected to put self aside, becoming their attendant when I'd begun to make steps away from them.

So now, with him, gone, with her gone, I smell cigarettes and am reminded that they remembered me.

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